Tag: seeing things differently

When You Look Back…

We are often told that we cannot forget our past, or that we have to learn from the past in order to make better choices in our present and even for the future. However, I often find myself looking at the worst of my past and being crippled by them. The memories of those embarrassing moments, those terrible decisions and those life-altering actions haunt me constantly. So that when I begin to firmly walk in faith and have uncompromised hope, the shadows of that nefarious past come calling me to once again be its slave.

Somehow I have developed this bad habit of self-denial out of the guilt of the past. What invariably happens is that I am never closer to my goal, never closer to really walking in my purpose because I then have to cross another treacherous river I thought I had left just up the road.

Now I have to guard my sanity by deciding what to do when I look back, for how I have interacted with my past so far, leaves my more there than here. Now, I have to learn how to make peace with my past, so that it does not always threaten my current wellbeing. I have to consider the lessons from my past that will helpme now and forget the “only” or “What ifs”. Finally, I have to accept, embrace and plan in that order my past, present and future. I advice that has shed light on my contencious relationship with my past, was to set goals and go hard. I realise I have always been good at setting goals but never pushing to achieve them. Why? Becuase somehow along the way I convinced myself that my past condemns me and so while I could have done it, I may not deserve it.

A terrible thought that will surely cripple persons’ potentials and kill their dreams. So, we need to be careful when we look back and what we take back into our present and future. Don’t allow your past to cripple, maim or make you lame, use the past to help you conquer your present and future situations.

Change is Necessary

This 2022 keep telling yourself this, “change is necessary, change is good and what must happen no matter if my vision is limited”. In 2021 people and things we love and felt could or would never leave us, left us. Things we thought we could never stop doing we had to stop doing. Places we always went to we had to stop going. Change is inevitable, if not there would be no new year for us to look forward to.

When we are deathly afraid to make a move because we don’t know if it is the right move or not, we have to do it anyway or we will remain where we are and regret not stepping on that fear and moving forward anyway. We cannot be afraid to fall because we can fall where we are; let life catch us moving, doing and aiming, not satisfied in an oppressive or limited known.

It will be hard to accept change, especially change that makes you uncomfortable, but sometimes that is the best change you need, to strengthen you. Each day holds the possibility that things will change. One day you wake up and you may realise your knees now hurt. What are you going to do, stop moving? Of course not you are going to move anyway and even find ways to move better than you did before those aches and pains. Change requires adaptation/transformation or stagnation. The one we experience depends on us and not the thing, situation or person who changes.

Change is scary, it’s hard for many of us to accept, but there is the potential for great things, depending on how we respond to it. So prepare for change, encourage it, embrace it and accept it.

Make The New Year Count

Today is December 31, 2021. Where I am from. Maybe as I write this, somewhere in the world it is already 2022. So, we already have persons embarking on their New Year’s resolutions or not. Many see the New Year as the best time to forget about all the bad things that happened in 2021 and embrace all the good ahead, all the possibilities waiting to be picked from the tree of opportunities. That is how we have been told to think of the New Year.

So, there is no surprise when many are disillusioned with what the New Year does not bring: a fresh new start and a brand new me, and you. The idea that we can start new when the new year comes is for many a fallacy. The problems that created those challenges more than likely are still there because there has been no attempt to get to the root cause of our issues. Therefore, diet plans will fail, so too will financial goals and any other type of New Year’s resolution we may have. I myself have had many such resolutions that have not panned out within a specific time were abandoned for the familiarity of mediocrity: why bother, it was a long shot anyway, it would have never worked anyway, maybe this is how things should be.

But for the New Year let us not abandon those changes that we still have not made, the many things that we already wrestle with and need to change. Let’s not add a new set of goals when we still have some fundamental things to work on about ourselves that has limited us so far. Let us not use this new year as an excuse to give up on areas that we still have to work on.

Instead of plunging headlong into new resolutions, we probably need to do a little self-examination, be honest with ourselves and act on that honesty. What goals did we have that we did not achieve and still would like to achieve? How will we get them done? There are habits that we may still struggle with, and we need to daily work on them. What can be done differently to finally start seeing positive and consistent changes in this regard. There may be a way of thinking that has harmed others or held us back, and we need to work on this.

Maybe it is best not to leap into the new year but take it a step at a time, being aware that we carry baggage from the previous years that we need to work out how to finally unload them.

The Angry Trail…

The Angry Trail...


Here it rushes through every fiber of your being
and heats your blood
to boiling lava
killing everything in its path
and it stops you
stunts you
forcing you on your knees.

It kills love
nutures hate
and keeps you in a dark place,
where no sun can shine
where it's always winter time,

but winter that burns deep
smolders then explodes!
And it leaves in its trail
silent wails
that can never be contained.