Invictus

The story of Pentecost is a story of a new world, a new way of being, and a victory over death confirmed and sanctified by the gift of the Holy Spirit. This realisation led me to reflect on the importance of resilience. I have read that Pentecost is about the expected and the unexpected, and in many ways, we can reflect on what this means for us. It is easy to read someone else’s story and be encouraged by it – “maybe that will never happen to me, but I felt so good to know that out of their pain, they found victory” – yes it’s nice to hear or read those feel-good stories. Then our turn comes and we are a mess, a bag of nerves surviving on our distress – “Why Lord, why is this happening to me!” Yes, we become a certified mess. We wake and smile with Despair, wave hello through our day and come to him again in a bed of fevered sweat, praying for this nightmare to end.

It is hard to see ourselves in those moments as anything but defeated. However, if we are not to be buried under the strain of our many battles in life, if we are to win the war, we must first see ourselves as unconquerable and unbeatable we have to be unyielding in believing we can do all things through Christ who strengthen us. We may say we are more than conquerors but may not believe that, but we have to think that to survive the storms. We have to know this is our truth. This is our constant hope, our defence when buffeted. This year I am learning about resilience. The word resilient comes from the Latin resilire, which means to jump back or recoil. To be resilient therefore means to be able to cope and bounce back from the adversities we face in life, it means to bend rather than break when every fibre of your being wants to seize up and become dry bones.

Today the sermon was about Ezekiel 37. In this chapter, God, through a vision, takes Ezekiel to the valley with dry bones and instructs him to prophesy that these bones will be resurrected:

Son of man can these bones live? (Ezekiel 37:3a)

That struck me. Can the bones in your life live once more when they are dry and so dusty that they seem on the verge of blowing away in the wind. But Ezekiel trusted and was completely submitted to the will of God and believed that if it were the will of God then these bones could live once more. All God wanted to hear was the manifestation of Ezekiel’s faith through his word and his words, “Oh Lord God, You know (3b)” which led to God partnering with Ezekiel. God told Ezekiel to prophesy and he did exactly as God had told him and those bones became supply flesh once more. But God was not done with him yet, because though the bones now had flesh there was no breath:

Also He said to me, “Prophesy to the breath, prophesy, son of man, and say to the breath, ‘Thus says the Lord God: “Come from the four winds, O breath, and breathe on these slain, that they may live. (9)

Again Ezekiel obeyed and those dried bones not only had flesh but they came alive with the breath of life. God can do anything and there is no other who can. So, on the day of Pentecost, tongues of fire rained and violent winds blew. The change had come, maybe not in the way the Believers expected but certainly how God intended. There was an event that witnessed the resurrection of Jesus Christ, one that led to something new for the faithful followers of Christ!

Now, we come back to resilience. Life can be so difficult that it is hard to know how to bounce back and so we stew in indecision and our uncomfortableness, our guilt and self-recriminations. So while we contemplate what it means and how it is to partner with God, I want to leave you with a poem that speaks against our shaking faith and paralysis when we allow fear to become a monster in our lives. we have the inner strength to rise, we have the Spirit of God living, breathing and speaking to and for us to rise.

Invictus 
BY WILLIAM ERNEST HENLEY

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.

Wine of Astonishment

A stolen truth hidden
sudenly revealed into a knowing
exposed
divulged
admitted
a truth not hidden
the wine of astonishment
a blinding light
on that road of no return
to hunger no more
no more to thirst
only leaves for healing.

I will not be defeated
the sun will not burn
only cool water
bursting through
reclaiming its path
no sorrow to drown in
only a spring well eternal
All praise be
Alpha and Omega
so let it be
it is done
amen

The Struggle of Overcoming Maladaptive Daydreaming

Individuals with maladaptive daydreaminexhibit more symptoms of depression, general anxiety, social anxiety, and dissociation. They are also more likely to have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) View Source , and depression

Whew and Wow, there are so many labels to contend with in this world. It seems we have become a people of labels. Maladaptive daydreaming is no joke and here I was thinking that fantasising about my best life would be the highlight of my life. Instead the more I delve into this topic the more I realise how dangerous this practice has been to my sense of reality and overall mental health. How to get out of the images and pleasures to be found in your head? Ever been so engrossed in your thoughts that it felt like you were the main feature in your own movie, whether it was a love story or revenge trope? And did you ever end up in the corner of your room or somewhere random crying your eyes out because your thoughts, imaginations and mental conjurings led you there? Well, that is when you know it’s not just daydreaming but a vicious cycle you try to divorce but because life is life you always return to it, for comfort. Wouldn’t life be really grand if you could spend hours escaping? Or are you being trapped? Tangled deeper into a world where no harm can touch you but, you cannot live a real authentic existence. This does not sound great long term and really each time you emerge from one of those long therapeutic escapades you are stuck with the grime of reality. How terrible! Yes, life can be terrible at times but not always and so if you give in to maladaptive daydreaming tendencies you never can fully explore all facets of life. You remain trapped, bound by a need to escape perceived or real dangers that never go away but can be restrained behind the bars of maladaptive daydreaming.

So, we are lost? No. we are not. It is hard. A daily struggle. However, if we really want to free ourselves from the paralysis of Maladaptive daydreaming then it really will take a lot of courage, determination and a village of supporters. It is not easy will never be easy and we will slip up but if we really want to be free of it we need to be disciplined and seek the right support for us whether personal, professional or both. Whatever it takes. So join me as I read a recommendation from a reader of this blog in reading, Quit Daydreaming: How to Wake up and Break free, by J Johnson. In the meantime, I will read and let you know.

Peopleing is Hard!

It’s a landmine out here! Anywhere you turn there a traps waiting to blow up in your face. It does not matter how articulate you sound or good your intentions, if people want to be offended they are gonna be offended no matter what. Imagine trying to live this life that’s hard enough already by being life and then having to evaluate, reconsider, reconfigure every word you say. When you mind was in the laundry mat newly minted and someone comes drags you down into the gutter of their deep dark obsessions. What can you do?

Maybe, I need time to consider what my role has been. Did I have unrealistic expectations or did I contribute to the situations that leave me feeling completely singe? It could be that we take things too seriously and we must stop being hyper-focused on how people are and look inwardly and work on being the best “me” that we can be. It is easy to complain about what everyone is doing or not doing but it’s harder to work not seeing someone else’s bile of trash and not clear out the one we have compiled. We too are a part of the people and their might be those who see us as difficult and hard. So what do we say about this? We may ask for grace but we too need to give it. Especially to that one person, who by their very appearance cause our blood to rage within us – because we know what they are about. Alas, those people cannot be avoided unless we decide to go live on a deserted island.

I remember being young and deciding I wanted to be a nun to avoid people, people hurt and people disappointment. I then decided that being a nun would be boring so maybe living on an island would do the tick! Yet, here I am still among people trying to navigate the slippery landmines that come from arrogance, stubbornness ignorance and perpetual anxiety. So what to do? Maybe it’s time to withdraw, declutter some stuff, throw out the garbage and come again stronger.

Bad Girl

You're not a good girl
you are not nice
today
you made mistakes
today
you're not a good girl.
You did not smile
most days
say hello
with a smile on your face
you got nothing done
you are not good.
you have done
nothing right
for a good while
no good
you are not good.
you told a lie
last night
today -
you caused offense -
disrepected
disappointed
you are not good.

Can I be human?

The Stand…

It rose suddenlyb-
a trembling
rocked the stones
they danced in manic glee.
leaves staggered in confusion
fall guiltlessly.
no one
not one
to be found
no one around.
a pregnant cloud takes up command.
the outporing at hand.
still
no one
not one
around.
the winds whipped
cat-o-nine whistled
skin broken
blood spewing.
no one
not one
around.
they all ran
both wolf
and sheep.
One must die.
Which one will it be?
Batttered
buffeted
strained.
Build up or
scatter.

Quaerite fontem

Unmerited Favour

walking down the road I slipped
skidded on pride
almost died
looked down
someone left a banana peel
cool
got up again
down a broken way
saw a puddle
jumped
right in
mud everwhere
showered with scum
down inthe slum
for a while
I stayed.
Then one day
the buggy man ran, won
run me out of town
thought I was done
till I got a ride
on the other side
where there are fields
of buds
blossoms
ready to burst
with sweet frangce
beauty from ashes..