Learn, Conquer and Keep Moving!

When people Show you who they are. Why don’t you believe them?

Maya Angelou

Just Listen

Why are you mad?

why are you getting heated?

This was never about you

why are you waiting?

Standing there by yourself

No one told you to

No one expected that of you.

I’m lazy

So what?

This ain’t about you.

you’re scared?

I frighten you?

Miss

Who told you it was your fear to carry?

Why are you still here?

I thought you left

A long time ago.

Okay stay there.

Wait.

Stand there.

Expect more than you were promised.

If you want to wait 

for the hundredth time

that’s your problem.

My poem above sums up the idea of how misguided we can be – more often than not. we project our secret hopes, desires and wishes on people and white wash their true character. We blame others for our unhappiness and disappointments. Personally, I believe that this is too much power to give another human over your live. Yet we continuously do so, needing to learn the lesson over and over – but never benefiting from it.

It’s dangerous to depend on others to make you happy and to make life worthwhile. The danger lies in the fact that you can actually create that person from your imagination and place this ideal in front of who they truly are. it is dangerous when you blindly follow that image to the detriment of your own peace of mind and even life! We feel compelled to give others the benefit of the doubt, even if it kills us. Quite literally. It becomes dangerous when we see the person for who they are but still insist on perusing that image. However, at this point it is no longer their problem, but solely yours.

Having faith and trusting in people is good. But this does not mean that we should abandon all common sense. There is something also very narcissistic in expecting others to be a certain way, the way you envision, just for me. In thinking that we have that special something that will compel them to believe that what has been working for them, is of no more value to them. The person who proclaims him or herself as being something specific, means that they genuinely believe it. It means that they accept and will always strive to be that way, no matter what others may say or think. It is not just that the person has a warped notion of self, but that they have self-determined who they are.

Believe them, do not make any excuse for them. Accept that not everyone will be the way you want them to be. Their words and actions are powerful because it shapes who they are. Accept that they sincerely know more about who they are, enough to clearly express it. Believe in their words and take comfort in their actions. And if it does not align with your vision, move along and be content in your disappointment.