Rise Up Nimbly…

It’s hard to leave traumas behind but it’s not impossible overcome them…

S.G

We all will have to deal with traumatic experiences in life that may stop our growth and prevent us from realizing our full potential. Many of us will also hear the advice regularly given to “get over it”, but it’s easier to say than do. Some seemingly small events may play a big part in the decisions we make and the actions we take that to some may seem trivial but not to those on the receiving end. Like my granny use to say, ” what’s joke to you is death to me.” Many times persons cannot relate because they have never had that experience. By the way we are all guilty of saying, “I understand what you’re going through”, when we really don’t.

You can always count on unpleasant surprises to undermine your goals but they should not stop you. If you do, how will you know the flip side of that negative experience? You have to persevere in order to experience the joy after the pain, the sun after the rain. Avoiding the trauma does not allow you to heal from it and therefore you will have to take the “bull by the horns” (another of my granny’s favorite expressions). Do not allow life’s traumas to paralyze you, but take action before they do. Know your vulnerabilities and work on them constantly; never give up. I have found little use in waiting on someone to save you, worst to sit and wait until things change. Take action when you have gathered enough resources, put God in front and be fearless. There is much truth in the idea that in order to experience change you have to “be the change you want to see”. The situation you want to get out of will remain the same if you do not take the often times difficult route needed.

It may take a lifetime to get over some traumas and we hope not to die trying. But it is not impossible. It is not only the Phoenix we can rise from the ashes, but we can also do this. What we need to remember is that once we have a beating heart, we are alive and once we have life there is nothing that can stop us from overcoming everything life throws at us.

“You were born with wings, why prefer to crawl through life?” 

― Rumi