I Failed and It Felt Good!

victus inopia veni et vidi

I have been failing quite beautifully all my life, from I was really young. I failed to meet my mother’s expectation by being born with a bountiful head of hair. As a result she was bitterly disappointed when two years passed after my birth and she still did not have hair to comb. Granted she had prayed for a girl and her prayer granted. I suggested to her that maybe her prayer had been incomplete and she should have prayed for a girl with hair to comb! Sadly my hair has failed to transform from an ugly duckling to a beautiful swan as though I have more of it is has decided its destiny is to be eclectic and grows variety of girls that does not conform to my attempt to reign it in but goes which ever way it feels like. That sounds like someone I know. But was i a success for my mother? She thinks so, so it must be so, right?

I have noticed that everyone, myself included, view failure as the worst thing that can happen to us. Funnily enough we take the failure of others as a sign of what not to do and a warning that if we do the same thing we will meet the same end. However, we fail at many things, everyday. But it is the “big” failures in our lives that causes the most distress. these “big failures” usually are the ones people can see and dissect as if they are doing brain surgery. thirty-five and not married, no car, no, house no idea of what you want to do with the rest of your life. You might as well call it a day, hibernate until your time. Or we can embrace failure!

why be anxious about failing? you will fail, it’s just a matter of time [you are welcome]. People may expect you to fail and then you become a riveting sideshow. while they are there watching and waiting for you to fail, show them what you can do and leave them with something to talk about. It may also be wise to fail in the eyes of others so you can find some measure of peace in not living up to anyone’s expectations. If we decide to see failure as a bad thing it will be a life long ball of chain that we lug along for the most uncomfortable ride of our lives! You know your limitations, whether you want to admit it or not, you also know what you can do, therefore you know when you are failing and what you can do to turn things around. However, failure is a success story when we embrace it with opening arms, as a true friend that will give you the kick start you need. It’s all about your mindset.